How to Interact With Difficult People
Last Updated: July 13, 2022 3:15:33 PM PDT
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Learn practical strategies you can use to develop better working relationships with difficult people.
Almost everyone encounters a difficult person now and then in personal and professional life. The best defense against conflict in such a situation is to be prepared for interacting with difficult individuals.1. Be honest and direct.
State your concern from your perspective, for example:
- I have a hard time concentrating when ...
- I can’t meet my deadlines if ...
- It’s hard for me to be positive when ...
2. Listen carefully.
- Listen to what the other person is saying instead of getting ready to react.
- Avoid interrupting the other person.
- After the other person finishes speaking, rephrase what was said to make sure you understand it.
3. Avoid blaming.
Focus on the facts. Finding fault can prevent problem-solving.
4. Stay focused.
- Discuss particulars; avoid generalizing.
- Avoid getting sidetracked into discussing other problems.
- Keep bringing the conversation back to the concern you’ve stated.
5. Say less.
After you state the problem, allow silence until the other person responds.
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